How To Find Love After 40
Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Coach, writes… …
Finding Love After 40 doesn’t have to involve sifting through countless personal ads, or going to singles bars. For many women finding love can seem like the last issue they want to confront. From my practical experience in relationship coaching, I work with women in their 30’s all the way to women in their 70’s and they learn what they need to do to change their beliefs about what’s possible in love and partnership for them.
Finding your the perfect mate is not about how many people you date. Finding true love is not only for the young or young at hears. It’s also not about being settling down and settling for less.
In my world, you CAN have it all. You are worthy of love. That’s what you learn in relationship coaching classes. The belief that you have to kiss a lot of frogs to get your prince is an outworn myth. Limiting beliefs and feeling like you’re too old to find love again are all part of old, ingrained beliefs taught to us by our culture. Fortunately, leading edge science and quantum physics are teaching us that our thoughts create our reality. As a relationship coach, my passion in life is to help you find out how.
Before you can create your a lasting loving relationship, you need to know what has been blocking you. Your experiences will always follow your expectations. If that’s so – and it is – then you want to know what’s in the way of you getting your expectations met. Said in another way, you want to get clear of what has been in the way (limiting beliefs) of you having the love you desire and deserve.
Let’s look at a couple strong cultural influences that inhibit us from attracting love.
1. The Influence of Others
We are all heavily influenced by our family, friends, co-workers and the media. If you’re constantly looking outside to see what’s possible for your in relationships, you’ll be comparing yourself to someone else’s standards. That rarely works for long term relationship happiness.
2. Habits of Thought or Beliefs
Your beliefs, like the air your breathe are rarely questioned. At one time it was TRUE that the earth was flat. Your thoughts, beliefs and expectations about what is possible for you in relationship will only keep the status quo in place. If you’d like to shift that, talk to a relationship expert and learn to break through your own limitations.
It’s no more difficult to find love after 40 than it is to find love in your 20’s. I manifested to love of my dreams in my late forty’s after two divorces and several relationship failures. When I got clear of what my limiting beliefs were, the love of my life entered in a very short time. I know you can create the love of your dreams, I did it and you can too.
I am 45 a single mom of a 7 year and divorced. Everyone says I look around 38, but anyway have done the online dating thing for 2 years OMG THE MEN R DISGUSTING, AND SICK MINDED AND RUDE. So I have stopped that. I have met some on facebook who have asked me to have a drink and would text me for a couple of days to set something up and then POOF nothing, its like they disappear, dont get why guys do that. I go to restaurants, food stores, everywhere in between and I dont get. I totally take care of myself, Im an instyle dresser, Im outgoing but not too much, I am not a slut, I dont come across as one. I have tried to approach men but they say I am not their type blah blah blah. In this world I just dont get it everyone is out there looking for someone but 90% cant find them. Please some advice.
Well if you have tons of time in your 40’s to date like the dickens. However I’m a 48 yr old mother of a 6yr old and my elderly mother lives with me, oh and I work full time. Yup lots of time to just run out and date! Let’s see how that swimming pool of men just shrunk to a plastic bowl. Men in this stage of their lives have been there done that. It’s incredibly difficult to find an honest down to earth guy who would not be scared of a child. And do not say online dating. What a load of crap. eHarmony, match.com…. absolutely useless. If you watch the ads only about 6 couples were ever successful in getting together. How do you find love at this stage? huh? let’s see someone answer that question.
OMG! I just read what Bren and Roz wrote and I am in the same boat. I am 40 years old and have an 11 year old son. With working full time and raising my son I don’t have the time or energy to hang out in bars looking for a date. I have tried the online dating stuff, and like Roz, everyone they “match” me with is AWFUL! I have actually been kindly asked to leave certain dating websites because I need to “change my requirements”. In other words, I shouldn’t be looking for a man my age, who lives in my town and has a job. It is soooooo frustrating. I also have reconnected with some men from my past through Facebook. They also have done the “let’s get together” and “can’t wait to see you again” and then disappeared off the face of the earth. One in particular I had been corresponding with for months and he flies into town supposedly to see me, calls when he gets in town and then I never hear from him again. I can only assume that when he stopped to put gas in his rental he met the love of his life at the pump next to his. I texted him (because I was worried), and left two voice mails (over two days) I have yet to hear from him. All my married or in relationship friends keep telling me that I need to “get out there”. Where is out there? I’ve read the books, hung out in grocery stores, sporting events, golf courses, motorcycle shops, hardware stores, coffee shops and book stores with no luck. The only men who talk to me are MARRIED! I’m an attractive woman, great figure, loves sports and cooking, loves to laugh at comedies and cheer on my home teams, and I have gone on one date in the 5 years that I have been single. What am I doing wrong? Or is it the men in my town? Do I need to move?
how nice to know that there are others in the same boat. I’ve been divorced for 11 years. Lived with a man for a few years after that but that relationship soon turned platonic and left me frustrated. Met another man who is alcoholic and keeps flying into a rage. There have been other men I’ve turned to for solace- all married men. i’m tired of the wrong men and married men. and then many others who are single are gay. It is all exasperating. I have a 19 year old daughter. After all these years I feel ready to get into a sensible equation but there is really is no one. So I just plod along with the alcoholic- thank god I don’t live with him!!
Well I am 43 and I always meet wonderful men and I have met a wonderful man thanks to online dating so what’s the difference between you and me? I don’t have any special talents or anything. I do spend time improving my self, reading books and listening to audios. Even if you don’t have the money to buy something there is your local library or you can get some great information online through blogs and video on youtube.
Once you begin to spend time on YOU then you will notice a shift in the kind of man that comes into your life – you don’t have to every change HIM just focus on YOU and let nature do what naturally happens. I always say “I only meet wonderful loving men” and because of that I really do. They are all great guys. Maybe we didn’t have stuff in common or we just weren’t compatible but that doesn’t take away from the fact that these men are wonderful to women. They ring when they say they will, turn up on time, treat you like a wonderful person.
So if what you want is a wonderful man stop settling, stop tolerating, stop putting up with stuff and starting CHANGIN YOUR LIFE.
Here is something great to get you started
http://believeinyourdreams.net/LoveVibeCB.aspx?hop=dianecorri
There is a lot of stuff out there and like I said if you can’t buy something then make use of what you can for free !